Thursday, April 5, 2007
Stifling that "Vanover Temper"
Whether it's in her genes or just her age, Kathryn's temper is getting out of hand. She used to hit and scream for reactions, but she's now doing it in retaliation for not getting her way. In a way, I guess that's still for reactions, but she's doing it to hurt people now rather than to see what happens. Time-outs are not working. Any tips on how to stop this behavior before it gets really unruly??
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Yeah, Tell her to stop. LOL! You wished that worked
Tried that. Didn't work.
run. run away and hide under your bed.
all i can say is keep pushing the time outs. i personally don't believe in physical discipline, but at this age it'd be ineffective anyway because she couldn't understand why you could hit and she couldn't.
with ky, when she's in time-out, we just try to explain that she hurt someone (physically or emotionally) and make sure that she understands that. it makes it hard because if she does hit, she gets yelled at by whomever is around and that's not how we do things, so someone random yells at my two-year-old, who isn't old enough to "know better" and then she becomes frustrated and hits more.
you have to remove her from the environment, sit her down, look her in the eyes, hold her arms down if necessary and say, "we do not hit. hitting hurts."
the end.
will have to let you know when we get there. ever watch "supernanny"?
those kids do a lot of hitting i've found. i agree though with meg. keep pushing the time outs. things take awhile for them to catch on and it may take longer because she's little and young and doesn't know any better. but she will catch on. and what i tell my parents of delinquent teenagers, consistency is key. i do believe that works for people of all ages though. oh, and i would try to tell people when they are around her that she is in this mode and when she does do that to have them not yell at your kid, but to tell her simply "no hitting" and look to you to tell her again and reinforce the time out.
tell her you're going to kiss her face all over in front of her friends. Oh wait, that only works on seven year old boys. Seriously, you are a good mother,just as Meagan is. The fact that you are even concerned about it speaks volumes. You will find something that works and consistency is the key as Rachelle said. No matter how tired , how frustrated you are. As little as she is, you can bet she is waiting for that one crack in your armour to attack. The worst thing you can do, as I have seen many parents do and sadly have done myself when feeling overwhelmed, is ignore bad behavior. When I worked with my EI kids, I used to do as Meagan suggests and sit them on my lap and hold them in a bear hug until they calmed down. Then we could talk.
But then again, Kathryn is only 1.
I'll keep the kissing thing in mind. I'd bet it works on seven-year-old girls, too...
Another suggestion that was made to me is to really focus on the person she hits, so they see how that person gets all the attention and she doesn't. I'm thinking I'll try to mix that in with the time-outs and hope she outgrows it quickly.
keep in mind that 'QUICKLY' for a 1.5 year old might not be very quickly at all.
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